Author: thepathtoworthy

Happy Tuesday friends. My intention was to research the history of Valentine’s Day. That statement might feel a bit out of the blue (outside of the very recent passage of the holiday), so let me share the three pieces of information that will likely provide mildly sufficient context: 1. I spoke to three friends yesterday,… Continue reading A Letter to St. Valentine

I was feeling better. No time like the present to jump back into the big, bad, scary world of dating, right? I knew that there were jerks out in the world and I wasn’t worried. I now knew some of the signs and even if I didn’t pick up on things straight away, my learning… Continue reading What? Why? Where? Who?

Do you think I got a little off track in the last day or so? I get why you might feel that way but don’t worry. I know what I’m looking to convey here. I’ll get to everything in due time. It was important for me to lay this all out for you, step-by-step. It… Continue reading I just want to feel normal again…

Yeah, so therapy always seemed to me like any other doctor’s appointment. Congestion and sinus pressure? Go to the internist. Get examined, get diagnosed, get medicine, and feel better. Belly hurts? Call the gastro. Get examined, get a test, get diagnosed, take some medicine, and feel better. Well, except when I was diagnosed with celiac.… Continue reading Can you fix me NOW?

I have been really focused on this notion of owning what we want to work on. Being honest on a level that is difficult for most. We are too concerned with what people will think of us, what that looks like, and the work involved after we utter the words. I know that this is… Continue reading Ruffle All The Feathers.

Hi. How do we stop caring about things that we no longer want to care about? I know. This seems an insane concept when put this simply and yet, I feel like we all grapple with this very problem on a regular basis. Isn’t that the reason we go to therapy, take up new hobbies,… Continue reading Consciously Uncoupling from Ourselves.

I used to find it impossible to admit I was withholding. There were so many reasons for this reluctance, but most was fear based. I know, shocking. I was afraid which is why I was withholding and then I was afraid to confront that I was withholding and then I was most afraid to admit… Continue reading Withholding- Part V.

Today’s post is not an invitation to be a liar. It isn’t. This isn’t a piece that you get to point at and say “see, that’s where I was told to withhold.” I am not giving you permission to withhold. I am telling you that there are occasions when you make a choice to hold… Continue reading Withholding- Part IV.

I talked about trust yesterday because like many others, I think trust is a quintessential building block for a good and hearty relationship. You can have all the love in the world but if there is no trust in a relationship or if that trust has been breached, there is a fundamental problem. There is… Continue reading Withholding- Part III.

Hi there. I wrapped up yesterday by differentiating between situations where you might want to address withholding from those where you may not want to. Before I dive headfirst into that arena and expand on each, I want to spend today really delving into with withholding looks like. In fact, let me map it out… Continue reading Withholders- Part II.