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Why do I feel all the things I do when I open my mouth? Why is it that I can voice my displeasure or disagreement in certain settings and remain nonplussed but when it comes to holding the people I care for accountable, I’ve often found myself in a puddle? Well, simply put, the stakes… Continue reading This is my truth: You are the most important.

Hey there. So, we’ve decided that we want to figure our shit out. Good for us, right? That sounds fantastic but the practice is different than the so-called commitment. The idea that we want to do something is a vast ocean away from the action of actually doing it. Before we get to getting there,… Continue reading Tell Me How You Really Feel.

Hey. Happy snowday ish thingy if you are somewhere that's getting it. I am, so hi. I started out the day with a tremendous wipe out on the freezing cold sidewalk, so to say that things are a bit bleak right now.... But alas, writing to you guys always lifts my spirits, so here goes… Continue reading Okay? Okay.

I’ve talked about this journey to face something difficult for the last several posts. I’ve spoken in fairly vague terms about what it means to say goodbye. To dig deep and find the place where that goodbye resonates. I spoke about my grandmother a week or so ago. I said goodbye to her two weeks… Continue reading The Goodbye Before the Goodbye.

Hi. I'm back. I don't know if I'm ready, but here goes nothing... (SPOILER: this was pre-written but I promise more on what I've been dealing with this last week later on): So, how do we actually do it? Like what happens when we get to the part where we are ready? We’ve braced ourselves;… Continue reading Leave Nothing on the Table.

Once we identify that something is awry, what do we do about it? How do we process and move forward? Not an easy task, that’s for damn sure. Outside of all the other traps, it’s like holding your finger close to a flame. As soon as you feel the heat, you’re less inclined to keep… Continue reading The Roadmap.

Hi there. We talked a little bit about others, but what about recognizing that "self-protective separation" in ourselves? How do we determine whether our separation is temporary or a more permanent situation? How do we pull ourselves up by our bootstraps when we need to? How do we get our shit together before it’s too… Continue reading Are you in there?

Anyone else despise the phrase hump day? Sorry. I do. Or maybe just today. Today, I feel heavy. The kind of heavy that comes with looking at a human whom you have adored for all of your life and saying goodbye. It’s a different kind of goodbye than that reserved for others because it’s not… Continue reading I Give Good Face.

Happy day after the day back. Did everyone have a good Monday? I usually dread the day after a longer break. I know, boo hoo. I suppose that is a pretty ignorant or tone deaf sentiment. We have massive unemployment and hunger in this country. We have working families and broken families and sick families… Continue reading More Self Love, Baby Girl.

Hi. I hope you all had a nice Thanksgiving, if you celebrate. Or a nice weekend. Or all the nice things. I want to continue the discussion about relationships today but I want to incorporate the theme of gratitude. When we have difficult or challenging relationships and we are doing the work to sort them… Continue reading Thank YOU. Really.