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Hi there. We talked a little bit about others, but what about recognizing that "self-protective separation" in ourselves? How do we determine whether our separation is temporary or a more permanent situation? How do we pull ourselves up by our bootstraps when we need to? How do we get our shit together before it’s too… Continue reading Are you in there?

Anyone else despise the phrase hump day? Sorry. I do. Or maybe just today. Today, I feel heavy. The kind of heavy that comes with looking at a human whom you have adored for all of your life and saying goodbye. It’s a different kind of goodbye than that reserved for others because it’s not… Continue reading I Give Good Face.

Happy day after the day back. Did everyone have a good Monday? I usually dread the day after a longer break. I know, boo hoo. I suppose that is a pretty ignorant or tone deaf sentiment. We have massive unemployment and hunger in this country. We have working families and broken families and sick families… Continue reading More Self Love, Baby Girl.

Hi. I hope you all had a nice Thanksgiving, if you celebrate. Or a nice weekend. Or all the nice things. I want to continue the discussion about relationships today but I want to incorporate the theme of gratitude. When we have difficult or challenging relationships and we are doing the work to sort them… Continue reading Thank YOU. Really.

So remember I said there was a little catch that I wanted to discuss? Maybe not, but I’m about to refresh your memory. It’s how fucking proper I am. How polite. I know, you might be chuckling right now, especially if you know me. I’m not always soft and gentle. Not by a long shot.… Continue reading Happy Thanksgiving.

Happy second day of the longest week. Maybe not for you, but for me. Anyway, happy Tuesday folks. I want to dig a little deeper into the concept of not confronting folks with your feelings. I think it’s important to really explain this concept because it needs to be crystal clear so as to not… Continue reading Doormat, No More.

Before I even jump into this week, I’m going to tell you that we’ve been here before. We have. That’s just the honest truth. We have discussed this issue. I am just facing it anew and so, I’m bringing it up again. I think it bears repeating, but if you are over it then feel… Continue reading The Troublesome Trifecta.

Today might be the most challenging part of this discussion. How do we reshape? How do we change? How do we meaningfully process what the universe has delivered to us? I started to drop a nugget or a hint yesterday where I explained to you that patience is required. You need to be patient with… Continue reading The Wealth of Lessons Learned.

How do we identify when others are triggering shame in us? I know that seems like a silly question to ask because for most of us, there are many situations that would fall under this umbrella that are pretty straight forward and obvious, right? I tell a friend that I’ve texted or called a man… Continue reading All. The. Triggers.

What happens if we are experiencing shame and it is shame that we shouldn’t feel? I am going to start with something of a silly example but one that I think clearly makes my point. I was having a conversation with someone, let’s call her mom (see what I did there?), about dinner. We were… Continue reading Sometimes a Piece of Pizza is Just a Piece of Pizza. Right?