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So remember I said there was a little catch that I wanted to discuss? Maybe not, but I’m about to refresh your memory. It’s how fucking proper I am. How polite. I know, you might be chuckling right now, especially if you know me. I’m not always soft and gentle. Not by a long shot.… Continue reading Happy Thanksgiving.

Happy second day of the longest week. Maybe not for you, but for me. Anyway, happy Tuesday folks. I want to dig a little deeper into the concept of not confronting folks with your feelings. I think it’s important to really explain this concept because it needs to be crystal clear so as to not… Continue reading Doormat, No More.

Before I even jump into this week, I’m going to tell you that we’ve been here before. We have. That’s just the honest truth. We have discussed this issue. I am just facing it anew and so, I’m bringing it up again. I think it bears repeating, but if you are over it then feel… Continue reading The Troublesome Trifecta.

Today might be the most challenging part of this discussion. How do we reshape? How do we change? How do we meaningfully process what the universe has delivered to us? I started to drop a nugget or a hint yesterday where I explained to you that patience is required. You need to be patient with… Continue reading The Wealth of Lessons Learned.

How do we identify when others are triggering shame in us? I know that seems like a silly question to ask because for most of us, there are many situations that would fall under this umbrella that are pretty straight forward and obvious, right? I tell a friend that I’ve texted or called a man… Continue reading All. The. Triggers.

What happens if we are experiencing shame and it is shame that we shouldn’t feel? I am going to start with something of a silly example but one that I think clearly makes my point. I was having a conversation with someone, let’s call her mom (see what I did there?), about dinner. We were… Continue reading Sometimes a Piece of Pizza is Just a Piece of Pizza. Right?

Sorry everyone. I meant to post last night but I worked extremely late and then all of a sudden, it was today. Now. So, let's double up today, shall we? I was taking an exercise class at home the other day and the instructor said “there is no shame greater than the grace that lives… Continue reading Oops, I did it again.

Welcome back and happy Friday. This is when we tie it all up. I mean, not all of it. There is so much left for us to discuss and explore on this topic. But for this week, we are going to come to a conclusion. This paragraph from the song I first shared with you… Continue reading We Can Do Better.

I have always had a difficult time processing the idea of a passive bystander or the bystander effect. I’m not a superhero but I often don’t think about who else is doing what before I decide to act in any given scenario. I may consider safety but what any other given human is doing, probs… Continue reading The Not So Innocent Bystander.

Welcome back. Did you consider what I left you with yesterday? Or were you too salty about it? I get it either way. I do. I read a great article in The Advocate whereas the author explored the notion of retiring the word privileged. The last paragraph in the article is perhaps the most profound… Continue reading Changing Hearts First, Minds Later.