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Part IV- Deniers Denial. A good friend of mine for a very, very long time. I felt so comfortable in denial for as long as I can remember. It was actually staggering how little truth I had the desire to see. It was so much easier to employ the cognitive biases I had available at… Continue reading Day 105- Part IV.

Part III- Martyrs Ah. One of my favorite ‘ers. I’ve never been one of these ‘ers. Why? Well, I’m too difficult. Too ornery. Too much of a challenge. My elbows are too sharp. Anyway, I’m speaking from a place of having interacted with martyrs, not having been one. I’ve interacted with all sorts of martyrs,… Continue reading Day 104- Part III.

Part II- Manipulators Hi there. Welcome to Part II of the ‘er series. Today we will be discussing manipulators. I know it doesn’t serve any purpose, but I think it is critical that I separate myself from this category of person. There is a very specific reason for that and it is probably not what… Continue reading Day 103- Part II.

Why hello friends. I hope you all had a nice weekend. I know that I did. It was chock full of friends and family and cooking and well, thinking. In particular, I’ve been thinking about the ‘ers. Huh? Yeah, the ‘ers.  Specifically, the enablers, manipulators, martyrs, deniers, and attempters. Thus, this week is going to… Continue reading Day 102- Part I.

Hi there. So, as you can tell from the title, I don’t anticipate writing tomorrow. It is not because I’m fatigued catching up with you here or I’ve run out of things to say. Rather, I am going to tackle a rather meaty topic today and for that reason, I’m going to give you a… Continue reading Days 98-101.

I had a weird experience last night. Weird in that I had a conversation with a friend that was really hurtful and then I self-examined, and then discovered that I was still hurt. Normally when I take space from something, I’m able to see where I might have gone awry and where fault might lie… Continue reading Day 97.

When I first met my current boss he told me that outside of all other qualities, there was one that he considered to be most important in evaluating an employee, accountability. This might be why we’ve been a good pair for the last decade, as accountability is hugely important to me as well. I believe… Continue reading Day 96.

[CRAFTED YESTERDAY]. It was a beautiful day today. I started the day by going to brunch with my parents to celebrate Father’s Day. It was a strange feeling, being out, but also lovely. The place we went to made us feel entirely comfortable. They followed social distancing guidelines and wore masks. Menus were paper to… Continue reading Day 95.

I was having a discussion with someone yesterday about friendship. They were running a scenario by me and seeking my feedback. We all know I love to give feedback, amiright? Anyway, they were explaining that a friendship they had was becoming toxic in some fashion. Actually, the more they explained the friendship, the more it… Continue reading Days 92-94.

This morning I had a really unpleasant exchange with a professional colleague. Really, really unpleasant. I was criticized and condescended to, and not in a way where I could extrapolate some lesson. The chastising and bullshit happened in a way where I felt like shit after it occurred. I had to forward the exchange to… Continue reading Day 91.